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A MAN'S AMBITION. The fear of failure stays predominant in the mind of a certain Igbo man. I'm thinking aloud this very morning because something inside me is yearning for attention.The emphasis we place on wanting friends. The good ones, the cantankerous type, the belligerent ones, inciting you to violence... on this platform I have everybody. But there is yet a lacuna, not even the influx of human can fill. The need to be different, distinct, great. The reverence the "common-man" give to the bourgeoisie. It is wanting to find yourself but getting lost to the conscious paradigms of life: the third-degree pathway. It is wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely... It is caring about everything but caring about nothing actually... It is feeling everything deeply but being paralyzing numb to the bullshit sold on the Lagos streets each day. It is the fear of failure. I am afraid to go down without a fight. Now, do I have
AN OLD SOUL What is an old soul? An old soul is often characterized as being someone who finds themselves alone and isolated to some extent.They’re wizened beyond their years seemingly from birth. But being an old soul comes with its own set of challenges. 1. People label you incorrectly. People are obsessed with labels. Are you a hippie? A hipster? Are you new age? Come on, you have to be something, right? Old souls are the hardest people to peg as belonging to a larger group because they tend to be unique. It’s like they’re above labels. 2. You feel like the black sheep. Old souls are great at building strong, meaningful relationships with people. They have this keen ability to appeal to a person’s heart. But there are a lot of superficial people in the world and many don’t want those kinds of relationships. It can make you feel isolated. 3. You’re easily drained emotionally. Old souls are the types who have seen it all and all they want is to
ENJOY WHERE YOU ARE There is nothing which is intrinsically enjoyable. What one person enjoys, another person despise. Enjoyment is an abstract word as it means different things to different people. It comes from your attitude toward a particular situation, not the situation itself.Too many people search in vain for enjoyable activities, enjoyable relationships, enjoyable environments, enjoyable entertainment. A much more successful strategy would be to stop searching and start enjoying. Get yourself up to little things that really brings the smile to your face. The enjoyment in itself is not in the activity. The enjoyment is in you. your very core. yourself. It is best apt to put it this way, Be your own best friend and find happiness in yourself. Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, find a way to enjoy it. Sure, it’s great when you aspire to bigger and better things. But don’t fool yourself into thinking that they’ll come pre-packaged with their own enjoyment
SHOULD I GIVE UP ON HUMANITY? The world is only a soulless place if you say it is. Sometimes, you just have to look a little harder. If you still only see black, make a spark to light the dark. Recently, I have been "losing faith in humanity", as dramatic as that sounds. Basically, there have just been days where I feel as if I can't trust anyone, and that everyone is so self absorbed, that the world is basically a fight for your own well-being and survival, wthout a shred of true human kindness towards others anywhere. That people only do things in order to get things. This was the mind set I was in when I went to work a few days ago. I work as a cashier. Generally, people simply want to get in and get out as fast as possible while spending the least amount of money possible, so usually, the customers I serve aren't the most pleasant people in the world. Because of this, I usually put on a "polite but emotionally distant" disguise on whil
14 steps to success in your career By Andreas von der Heydt · When I was working in my first leadership role as a director of key account management at L´Oréal – and having been highly committed to manage a challenging business and a talented team – our baby daughter was diagnosed with craniosynostosis. To avoid possible brain damages an immediate head surgery was required. As every parent would, my wife and I discussed with doctors and medical experts to find the right hospital and treatment. When I sat there one evening whilst our little one was crying in her rocking cradle, I was contemplating about the upcoming surgery and her future. I was sorrow-stricken and regretted the long hours I used to spend in the office, the countless business trips I had made, and not having been at home as often as I should have been. Of course, all of that with the very best intentions – To earn sufficient money for a good living, to finance our own home, to secure a pl
GOD'S WIFE An Eye Witness Account from New York City, on a cold day in December. Hopefully, this is the kind of thing that happens frequently, everywhere….. A little boy about 10 years old was standing before a shoe store on Broadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering with cold. A lady approached the boy and said, “My little fellow, why are you looking so earnestly in that window?” “I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes,” was the boys reply. The lady took him by the hand and went into the store, and asked the clerk to get half a dozen pairs of socks for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of water and a towel he quickly brought them to her. She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet and dried them with a towel. By this time the clerk had returned with the socks. Placing a pair upon the boy’s feet, she purchased him a pair of shoes, and tying up
BEING GAY, BIG DEAL? Good morning World. I am trying to understand what being gay is all about. I have strong feelings for the male folk, it would baffle me if there is any sexual inclination to this. When a child is being born with deformities, a quick surgical operation is being performed before he/she grows up at most times, reason being that, deformities are easiest to repair and manage from childhood... Well to me, being Homosexual "gay/lesbian" is another type of a deformity, why because, that specie was not meant to be that way... Below is how to control this form of deformity right from childhood. Why don't we introduce a Subject/Lesson/Course named Physical Appearance MF "MF stands for Male and Female respectively" where by this subject will teach kids on how to be their own sex, for example teach kids how to walk, talk, dress etc.. A well outlined teaching scheme of work can be worked on till the last grade of primary sc
FEAR OF FAILURE The fear of failure stays predominant in the mind of a certain Igbo man. The infinitesimal thought at the background of the mind nestling, cuddling, reeling... How productive am I? What have I achieved? Am I part of what I criticize in the world? How do these people on social media street see me? ... Are they carried away by the shadows instead of the substance? Do they think I have gotten there, or am I seen as a work in progress? I'm thinking aloud this very morning because something inside me is yearning for attention.The emphasis we place on wanting friends. The good ones, the cantankerous type, the belligerent ones, inciting you to violence... on this platform I have everybody. But there is yet a lacuna, a void not even the influx of human can fill. The need to be different, distinct, great. The reverence the "common-man" give to the bourgeoisie. It is wanting to find yourself but getting lost to the conscious paradigms of l
MISPLACED PRIORITIES On his death bed, Alexander summoned his army generals and told them his three ultimate wishes: #1. The best doctors should carry his coffin... #2. The wealth he has accumulated (money, gold, precious stones) should be scattered along the procession to the cemetery... #3. His hands should be let loose, so they hang outside the coffin for all to see!! One of his generals who was surprised by these unusual requests asked Alexander to explain. Here is what Alexander the Great had to say: #1. "I want the best doctors to carry my coffin to demonstrate that in the face of death, even the best doctors in the world have no power to heal .." #2. "I want the road to be covered with my treasure so that everybody sees that material wealth acquired on earth, will stay on earth..." #3. I want my hands to swing in the wind, so that people understand that we come to this world empty handed and we leave this world empty handed after
“True love knows when to say NO.” -FEMI FRAGILE “The strangest happenings in life come with the most sincere intentions from familiar people, and such sincerity is what hurts us the most.” That was the consol ation I got from my friend, John, after the astonishing reply I got from Tutu earlier that day. I had asked her “will you marry me?” in a bar somewhere on Atican beach where we decided to celebrate her birthday. The ovation was high, it was a well packaged surprise; I invited few of our friends, including a saxophonist to usher in a romantic aura, and John even went out of his way to invite Wande Coal just to make it look extraordinary. “Forget it, this guy is the best male vocalist in Naija.” Tutu is also a big fan of his. The stage was set for me to shine, and I was quite confident she was going to say yes. I sipped on the wine I held in my left hand as the saxophonist set my heart ablaze with the melodic tune he played. Not quite after that, Wande Coal stepped forward; yo
AHMED'S PREDICAMENT You’ve probably read or heard about the 14 year old boy who made a digital clock and got arrested by the Police after his teacher mistook his homemade clock for a bomb. Awful, right? Now here’s the good part: The news got on social media and people from all over the world condemned the act and gave massive support to Ahmed for his ingenuity. But it didn’t end there. Ahmed got shout-outs from President Obama, presidential hopeful Hillary Clinton and Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg invited him to Facebook. Ahmed has also received invitations to work at Twitter and Reddit, been offered a seat at the Google science fair and a scholarship to NASA’s space camp – just to name a few. Thanks to his teacher! But what if Ahmed’s teacher had not called the Police on him? Ahmed’s clock and 13 other inventions by him may have gone unnoticed. The world may not have known there was a 14 year old genius somewhere in a Texas high school. MORAL OF THE STORY: When life
iMOTIVATE 1. This morning, like he has every morning for the last decade, my 86-year-old grandfather picked a fresh wild flower on his morning walk and took it to my grandmother. This morning I decided to go with him to see her. And as he placed the flower on her gravestone, he looked at me and said, “I just wish I had picked her a fresh flower every morning when she was alive. She would have loved that.” 2. Today, on my 47th birthday, I re-read the suicide letter I wrote on my 27th birthday about two minutes before my girlfriend showed up at my apartment and told me, ‘I’m pregnant.’ She was honestly the only reason I didn’t follow through with it. Suddenly I felt I had something to live for. Today she’s my wife, and we’ve been happily married for 19 years. And my daughter, who is now a 21-year-old college student, has two younger brothers. I re-read my suicide letter every year on my birthday as a reminder to be thankful – I am thankful I got a second chance at life
ZERO TO HERO Good Evening World. I am inspired to share one of the few deepness resident in my mind this evening, of course i understand that motivation and inspiration seem to be the least considered doctrine in today's world. the sudden despair and anguish that clutter the mind as we go through our daily activities leaves everyone deeply sated, beaten to near pulp. But just as the notable poet Syl Cheney Cooker would say, "we must learn again to fly" I share with you today, one profound story which was told by a friend of mine. of course this story stays too real as it was experienced first hand and is very verifiable. One young lady who was working as a domestic help-hand received a call one morning from her employer. The boss said ,please don't come to work. I have found your replacement. She cried a lot. Because she knew that her family depended on her salary. After crying she was heard saying , the bible says , for I know the pl
AMEND IT. ...But It was their anniversary, and Funke was waiting for her husband Kunle to show up. Things had changed since their marriage, the once couldn't-live-without-each-other cute couple had turned bitter fighting over every little thing. Both didn't like the way things had changed. Funke was waiting to see if Kunle remembered it was their anniversary, Just as the door bell rang, she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand. The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was the plan for champagne, light music, - and it was raining! It was perfect timing, But the romantic moment was paused when the phone in the bedroom rang. Funke went to pick the phone up and it was a man who spoke. "Hello ma'am I'm calling from the police station. Is this Mr. Kunle Adeoye's number?" "Yes it is!" "I'm sorry ma'am; but there was an accident and a man died. We got thi